You are invited to attend the 21st annual, 2021 Northern California Unity Men’s Retreat! The theme of this year’s retreat is “Step Zero: Coming Back Face-to-Face.”

This year marks the 21st anniversary of our annual men’s retreat and we are looking forward to a safe gathering of members of our SA fellowship for a weekend in the Santa Cruz County foothills.

Step Zero:
Coming Back Face-to-Face

Dates: Friday Oct 29, 4:00 PM to Sunday Oct 31, 2021, 11:00 AM

Location: Monte Toyon Retreat Center
220 Cloister Lane,
Aptos CA 95003

Click here to register for the retreat!

NOTICE: In observance of current state and Santa Cruz county guidance, social distancing and masks for outdoor and indoor gatherings is optional. Please consider the health and safety of others, especially if you feel any respiratory illness before or during the retreat. Bring clothing and gear suitable for some outdoor gatherings, as needed.

About the Northern California Men’s Unity Retreat

The Northern California Men’s Unity Retreat (NCMUR) organization was established in 2001* to organize and facilitate retreats for members of Sexaholics Anonymous (SA), a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength, and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem. The only requirement for membership in SA is a desire to stop lusting and become sexually sober.

The purpose of each retreat is to provide a venue for the fellowship of male SA members and to put into action the twelve steps toward spiritual progress. No matter what step or steps a member is working on, they will find help and encouragement. Rather than remaining in isolation, suffering the negative aspects of our addiction alone, we choose to share openly with one another in a safe, nurturing, and even fun environment; so plan on having a great and memorable weekend at a NCMUR retreat!

NOTE: NCMUR 2021 will be conducted in accordance with California and Santa Cruz County health restrictions for COVID-19, including requirements for face coverings, social distancing, and limitations on use of indoor gathering spaces. Please be adaptable. Bring clothing and gear suitable for some outdoor gatherings, as needed.

Retreat Schedule

Following is the proposed schedule for this year’s retreat. Please note that some details may change as the retreat date approaches:

Schedule and Program


  • 4-6 Check-in: Carey Lodge
  • 6-6:45 Dinner: Dining Hall
  • 6:45-7 Facility Welcome and Orientation: Dining Hall
  • 7-8 Welcome and Introductions: Helgerson Hall
  • 8-10 Fears and Gratitude Exercise/Sharing: Helgerson Hall
  • 10-11 Night Owls-Getting Current: TBA


  • 6:45-7:45 Attitude Adjustment Mtg: Helgerson Hall
  • 8-8:40 Breakfast: Dining Hall
  • 9-12 Step Workshops Break Out: Rooms TBA
  • 12-12:40 Lunch: Dining Hall
  • 1-5:45 Free Fellowship Time
  • 6-6:45 Dinner: Dining Hall
  • 7:30-9:30 Speaker/Discussion Mtg: Helgerson Hall
  • 9:30- Campfire, Fellowship: TBA


  • 6:45-7:45 Attitude Adjustment Mtg: Helgerson Hall
  • 8-8:45 Breakfast: Dining Hall
  • 9-9:30 Personal Pack and Clean: Carey Lodge
  • 9:30-10 Community Pack and Clean: Helgerson Hall & Outdoors
  • 10-10:45 Step Workshop Wrap: Helgerson Hall
  • 10:45-11 Closing Circle: Helgerson Hall
  • 11-12 NCMUR Business Meeting: TBA