You are invited to attend the 23rd annual, 2023 Northern California Members’ Unity Retreat! The theme of this year’s retreat is “Progressive Victory over …”

This year marks the 23rd anniversary of our annual members’ retreat and we are looking forward to another safe gathering of members of our SA fellowship for a weekend in the Santa Cruz County foothills.

Dates: Friday Nov 3, 4:00 PM to Sunday Nov 5, 2023, 12:00 PM

Location: Monte Toyon Retreat Center
220 Cloister Lane
Aptos CA 95003

Click here to register for the retreat!

About the Northern California Members’ Unity Retreat

The Northern California Members’ Unity Retreat (NCMUR) organization was established in 2001* to organize and facilitate retreats for members of Sexaholics Anonymous (SA), a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength, and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem. The only requirement for membership in SA is a desire to stop lusting and become sexually sober.

The purpose of each retreat is to provide a venue for the fellowship of SA members and to put into action the twelve steps toward spiritual progress. No matter what step or steps a member is working on, they will find help and encouragement. Rather than remaining in isolation, suffering the negative aspects of our addiction alone, we choose to share openly with one another in a safe, nurturing, and even fun environment; so plan on having a great and memorable weekend at a NCMUR retreat!

Retreat Schedule

Following is a tentative schedule for this year’s retreat. Please note that some details may change as the retreat date approaches:

Schedule and Program


  • 4-6 Registration and Fellowship: Carey Lodge
  • 6-6:45 Dinner: Dining Hall
  • 6:45-7 Facility Welcome and Orientation: Dining Hall
  • 7-8 Welcome and Introductions: Helgerson Hall
  • 8-10 Fears and Gratitude Exercise/Sharing: Helgerson Hall
  • 10-11 Night Owls-Getting Current: TBA


  • 6:45-7:45 Attitude Adjustment Mtg: Helgerson Hall
  • 8-8:40 Breakfast: Dining Hall
  • 9-12 Step Workshops: Break Out Rooms TBA
  • 12-12:40 Lunch: Dining Hall
  • 1-2:30 Step Workshops: Break Out Rooms TBA
  • 2:30-6:30 Fellowship/Recreation Time: We will have access to the on-site rec facilities from 3:30 – 6:30pm Saturday. This would be the basketball, volleyball and field areas. Other rec opportunities – hiking or off-site – are as we choose.
  • 6-6:45 Dinner: Dining Hall
  • 7:30-9:30 Speaker/Discussion Mtg: Helgerson Hall
  • Until 10:00 Campfire, Fellowship: Campfire activities must end by 10:00 PM


  • 6:45-7:45 Attitude Adjustment Mtg: Helgerson Hall
  • 8-8:45 Breakfast: Dining Hall
  • 9-9:30 Personal Pack and Clean: Carey Lodge
  • 9:30-10 Community Pack and Clean: Helgerson Hall & Outdoors
  • 10-10:45 Step Workshop Wrap: Helgerson Hall
  • 10:45-11:15 Business Meeting (everyone): TBA
  • 11:00 Vacate from all buildings
  • 11:15-11:45 Closing Circle: Under the redwoods